Thursday, January 20, 2011

12 weeks.

I haven't felt very well lately. My sweatpants, bed and bathroom are my three favorite things right now. Okay and the refrigerator, but when isn't that one of my favorite things?

I've finally gotten around to blogging the last couple of months/events in our little world.
I must admit, the past months have been bittersweet. I tried for awhile to get pregnant and it finally happened!...But at a time when my dear friend lost her baby. I feel I wouldn't be honoring her and her baby Miles (and frankly just telling the truth) if I didn't include that while we are excited, it is also not as I would have wanted it.
And there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about that.

I read a blog the other day of a woman who lost her baby at two days old. She said throughout all her trials she has learned that one person's joy can be another person's trial and we all must be sensitive to that. I couldn't agree more. When we were trying and couldn't get pregnant it seemed like once a week a friend would call and say they were expecting. While I was genuinely happy for them, it would also bring about feelings like there was something wrong with me or like everyone else was moving forward in the game but me.

So while I am happy to announce that we are pregnant and expecting in early August, I am also deeply sad about Holly's loss, and aware that this can be a sensitive time in people's lives. The old cliche, "You never know what someone else is going through," has never seemed more relevant in my life. I am not perfect, but I'm trying to be more aware of other's feelings and situations.

14 comments:

Erica said...

i'm so excited for you and your darling family! what a tender way to announce something so special. i totally admire you.

Anna said...

Such exciting news! I am SO happy for you and Deboro!! And you could not have announced it in a more thoughtful or sensitive way. You are such a good friend.

And I love all the catch-up posts! Elle looks so grown up & beautiful.

..::k.toms::.. said...

Congratulations!!!!!
I knew Elle was getting close in age to becoming a "big sister" so I was hoping it would happen soon! And here you are?!
I'm no psychic but for some reason I have a feeling it's a boy?
I'm sorry for your friend's loss! How devastating for her. You are a good friend, and it shows through this sensitive post.
I agree, we all have our trials. Even though life is tough, it lightens our day knowing that we can celebrate in another way for someone we love.
Congrats!!

Grey Sky Blue said...

So happy for you and your little 'Princess' (love those Christmas shots)! You are a wonderful friend to Holly. I miss you both.

Matty and Jen-i said...

Ohhhhh congrats Alana! That is definitely something to be excited about and I couldn't be happier for you! I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Holly and Dave said...

i love you, and am happy for you. thank you for your continued thoughtfulness and sensitivity. i'm sure Miles and your little one are having a great time together right now. :)

Jen Richards said...

Alana! I am so happy for you. That was such a sweet post. Love you!

Lorilee said...

actually, this post just verified that you ARE perfect. i'm so envious of your and holly's friendship.. you are lucky to have each other.
congratulations, i am truly excited for you.

Lauren said...

congratulations alana! thanks for putting into words EXACTLY how i feel. loves to you!

Lindsey said...

Alana,

Congratulations! It is very exciting news, and I relate so much to what you wrote. We are on the road to a 2nd IVF this year, and I feel you on those feelings of wanting to move forward. I'm so happy for you and this pregnancy. There is always the bittersweet in life, but this is sweet and happy news.

Julie said...

I'm so excited for you two! Love you both, and yes this post is so true and what a great reminder!

Ashley Blackburn said...

Alana...congrats! I had no idea you were pregnant! I'm so happy for you guys!!

marta said...

lovely lana..
i hope you're feeling better and enjoying rounding out that baby bump! i am excited for your happy news. you are so sweet to be sensitive. so glad elle has a sibling in store. am praying for a healthy happy pregnancy for you.. xo.

Jenn & Cardy said...

congratulations, alana!